Life is a journey. It’s full of twists and turns, hills and valleys, smooth paths and rocky ground. The journey begins and ends the same way for us all: we are born, and at the end we die. Fortunately, during the journey we have many options and paths we can take. We can choose to be in the driver’s seat and control the route to the destination, or we can choose to be a passenger and allow someone else to control how and when we get to the end of the journey. Now I’m not speaking on God (for my spiritual/religious readers), but I am speaking on whether we make decisions about our life, or allow life to take us where it wants.
Once you decide to get into the driver’s seat of your life, the most important thing to know is what is driving you. You can wander aimlessly with no real idea of where you want to go, wasting gas along the way until you run out. Or you can make a decision to travel with purpose. In order to do this, you must know WHY you’re traveling. One of my favorite books, “Start with Why” by Simon Sinek, can help you figure out just that. The great leaders in the world, the ones who brought about significant change, all understood WHY they chose to be in the driver’s seat. They had a purpose; a mission; a goal. Their “why’ was so strong that no matter the obstacles that appeared in the road ahead, they were able to navigate around them and get back on course.
It’s not always easy to know what your “why” is. Over time, it will change. It will expand. And that’s perfectly normal. Some of my mentors often say, “if your why doesn’t make you cry, it isn’t big enough”. I’ve found that to be true. It has to be something that you are so passionate about that you lose sleep at night. Something that you think of daily. That you want as much as you want to breathe. Something that you are willing to make sacrifices to achieve. Only then will it keep you moving in the right direction when your mind is telling you to give up. Only then will you continue to press forward in spite of rejection and disappointment.
The most important thing that I’ve learned about drive is either you have it or you don’t. Drive is not something that can be taught. You can’t convince a person to become passionate about something. There are no words you can say to light a fire in someone if there isn’t already a spark there. I’ve seen too many people waste so much time trying to convince another person to have drive. It’s just not possible. Drive is burning desire within one’s self that pushes you towards a goal. You can’t fake it, can’t manufacture it. Find out what in life drives you and you can’t be stopped.
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